More About Steph
I am a cis-gender straight white female, and my goal and desire is to create a safe, inclusive, open space for everyone I speak with. I offer an open heart, open ears and welcome the tough conversations. I continue to educate myself and strive to be a better ally to my BIPOC and LGBTQAI2S friends and clients.
I encourage you to come as you are. There is no "right" head space to be in for a therapy session. I welcome all feelings into my space and will sit with you in those feelings. I will be curious about them while respecting your walls and boundaries.
To truly get the most from your sessions, I will offer you exercises and suggestions on how to show up differently in relationships, while remaining true to yourself and your own life's passion. When we step into all of who we are in all of our relationships, that is where real connection and real joy lie.
Fun and laughter are values I hold dear to my heart and will bring into my sessions with you. Some of the things I can be heard saying is "No, Eff that Ego!", "Celebrate that Shit!", "YES!! Say that louder!" "Wait, nope, that didn't come out right, let me say that again...", "Goddamn it! This parachute is a backpack!"Thank you for sharing and showing up.", "That was an act of self compassion and self love"
I will encourage you to keep celebrating your wins. It's so easy for us humans to focus on the negative, and I will keep cheering you on to look at the other side of that coin. What are the gifts? How can we celebrate that?
When I'm not booking travel at my day job, or counselling clients at night, I can be found, writing, volunteering with Clearmind International,or with friends trying out a new restaurant or travelling the world. 27 countries and counting...
What is Transpersonal Psychology?
Transpersonal Psychology might loosely be called the psychology of spirituality. It explores those areas of the human mind which search for higher meanings in life, to move beyond the limited boundaries of our ego, to access a greater capacity for wisdom, creativity, unconditional love and compassion.
How is Transpersonal Psychology used in therapy?
We are all connected not only to each other but a Divine Universal Force that some may call God. Others may call this Great Spirit, Creator, Divine Love and many other names. Transpersonal psychology doesn't believe in you are better than me, or I am better than you. The relationship forged between a therapist and client is a sacred one and can be transformative, using the relationship between us to create a new experience for you, the client, in your issue/struggle.
What other modalities do you use?
While always keeping my transpersonal view in the forefront, I am trained in Bowen's Family Systems theory, which looks at the family as a whole. We often walk through the world recreating the beliefs and enforcing the rules we learned in our family system growing up. We recreate these beliefs about who we are and rules that must be followed at work, in friend groups and with partners and children that come after. When we can bring awareness to where it started, we can start to understand what is driving the behaviour and then we have the conscious decision to move forward in these relationships in a new way.
I am also trained in Gestalt Therapy which is a person centred therapy tool. Gestalt Therapy understands that no one can be objective on their own life. That our views of an event will be coloured by our past experience and our environments. A Gestalt therapist allows their client to express themselves freely and then translate that to a here and now experience while giving the client a new experience to take forward into their life. It's a good "Reality Check" on what is actually true.
What other trainings do you have?
I am also trained in Women's Empowerment, Erotic Empathy, ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), PTSD therapy (CCTP ceritified), Somatic Therapy, Enactment Therapy, & AEDP
I just started therapy, how come I feel worse?
This is actually a really common phenomenon in the early stages of therapy. Complicated issues/struggle we haven't been able to overcome on our own, because of that inability to be objective about our own lives, you will now be exploring in a deeper and more meaningful way. Often times, this is the first time we've been able to speak about an issue/struggle. The bad news? You will feel worse before you feel better. The good news? You will feel better! The more we are able to take those baby steps into our issues/struggles, the easier it gets and the more feelings around it we are able to tolerate. Growth is a muscle. It just takes repetition and commitment to build it!
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