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Stephanie Gilson Counselling

“When two people relate to each other authentically and humanly, God is the electricity that surges between them.” ~ Martin Buber

About Steph

I have always known that I wanted to help people. How or what that looked like was a little bit of a mystery to me, until I was approaching my 40th birthday and while in my own therapist's office as client, saw how much she was encouraging me and teaching me the tools to create lasting change, and realised that this was how I wanted to help people. 

Growing up I had family members battling addiction abuse disorders, serious eating disorders, anger management struggles, traumatic medical events, and before the age of 10, I had lost two of my brothers leaving me in the strange and confusing position of being an only child but not really an only child. Who was I?

These cumulative experiences covertly taught me that I don't have a voice. That I can't set healthy boundaries, yet I felt unsafe a good portion of my life as well. They taught me to self-abuse and be a good girl instead of using my voice and speaking my needs. I learned to say "that's OK" when apologies were offered instead of "I'm hurt/scared/sad/angry". How was it my place to make someone who already felt bad, feel worse? This is where my own therapy began to help me have the skills, tools and confidence to make changes in my life.

My life's passion is to help people have the skills, tools and confidence to make lasting change too!

I can help with:

  • Guilt

  • Shame

  • Anxiety

  • Self-Esteem Struggles

  • Medical Trauma

  • Body Neutrality 

  • Healthy Boundary Setting (including home and work relationships)

  • Empowerment Language

  • Relationship Loss/Confusion

  • Sexual Communication Struggles

  • Sexual Relationship Structures Struggles (IE: poly, kink, solopoly, traditional monogamy, modern monogamy etc)


  • Clearmind International 2014 - 2017

  • Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (IATP) -  2017

  • Treating Trauma the Master Series (NCIABM) - 2019

  • The Divine Feminine (Jeff Brown) - 2019

  • Hey White Therapist; Here's Where We Start (Clearly Clinical) - 2020

  • Kink-Claiming the Trauma (Tashra) - 2020

  • The Psychobiology of Kink (Tashra) - 2020

  • Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma (PESI) - 2020

  • Culturally Responsive Care Supporting Asian and Communities of Colour (Inclusive Therapists Shop) - 2021

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