Stephanie Gilson Counselling
“When two people relate to each other authentically and humanly, God is the electricity that surges between them.” ~ Martin Buber
About Stephanie Gilson
Hello and welcome to my website! My name is Steph and I am a Registered Therapeutic Counsellor (RTC) with ACCT #2399
I have always known that I wanted to help people. How or what that looked like was a little bit of a mystery to me. I did graduate high school and attend university with being a psychologist in mind, but my heart wasn't in it so I dropped out and life took me on another path.
I went from dead end job to dead end job and then in 1998 just two days after my 23rd birthday, I was in a terrible car accident. I ended up with soft tissue damage and it took quite a toll on my mental and physical health. In my recovery time, I was fired from my dead end job as a cashier. I could no longer stand for 8 hrs a day at a cash register and keep up appearances of any cheery demeanour. The next week, I fell into being a travel agent and lo and behold, 21 yrs later I still am and I still love it!
For years during the recovery from my accident and even after, I disconnected myself from family, friends and even partners. I never really dated, and any man that was in my life was a secret. Never a real relationship. I found myself so alone, crying myself to sleep wondering why I was so unlovable that none of these men chose me. I could not see the part that I was playing in keeping myself so distant and separated from my friends, family and these men. I subconsciously kept that message crystal clear to all of those in my life. The negative beliefs I had left unexplored about myself were louder and felt bigger than my desire to find someone I wanted to spend my life with or make any meaningful connections.
I remember around the age of 28, my Mom saying to me one day, "Why do you feel so little self-worth?" and that question STUCK with me. I didn't know the answer. It took me some years, but I sought out a therapist to help me find the reasons why. With her help and learning to trust myself to open those deep wounds, I began to look at the traumas I had experienced in my young life. I started to my find voice and myself again. I stopped feeling lost and alone. I began to show in up in my relationships more vulnerable, more connected and more myself. I also found that my true self is sometimes too loud, too emotional, too much of a potty mouth, too sensitive and too passionate and you know what, I LIKE that about me now. I own all of my too muchness out loud and proud!
Somewhere along this rediscovery of me, I remembered my life passion to help people and at 39 yrs old decided to go back to school. I graduated with a diploma in transpersonal psychology from Clearmind International in 2017 and now I get to do both my passion jobs, both helping others. My day job booking corporate travel for clients, some of which I have had for 20yrs. And as a therapist helping others find their own self-worth, their own voice and their own passion for their life. This is where my electric goosebumps come from. Like the quote on my home page, when we show up together vulnerably the electricity that flows between two people is God, or as I prefer to say, the Divine.
I look forward to witnessing you along your journey with love and lots of laughter